Whenever you realize it’s time for a change, you start taking small steps to change your life. You are bound to experience internal resistance. At first, you feel very powerful for change, and then you suddenly find yourself in a paralyzing state of anxiety. You’re fighting desperately against yourself. Keep doing what you don’t want to do and put off what you really want for yourself. And all of this makes you feel afraid of the future. So what are the reasons?

1. The resistance mechanism is aimed at making you feel comfortable and safe, as the time of change makes you feel insecure.

You want to change yourself and your life for the better, which means depriving yourself of your usual (and possibly destructive) pleasures. However, your fear wants to keep you where you are. He wants your desire to stay in your comfort zone to replace your willingness to take risks, move into the unknown, realize your full potential, and take bold action.

2. You’re used to things that bring comfort and pleasure — as a result, your brain perceives all unfamiliar changes as a threat.

Being productive, healthy, creative, selective about what you let into your life are things that don’t offer instant gratification. Most people just want to have short-term fun, rather than doing hard, painstaking and hard work on themselves.

3. You fear all alternatives and imagine the worst possible outcome if you don’t do what is expected of you.

At school, you tried to get good grades and behave as expected and predictable. You went to university to meet your parents’ expectations. You’re making a career because it’s customary and that’s what everyone does. It’s just hard for you to change your way of thinking.

4. You’re overwhelmed by the difference between your ideal lifestyle and your current situation, and it’s hard to overcome the urge to change everything at once.

Again, you want instant results during a time of change and you vehemently criticize yourself for not showing enough willpower. You also know that you have to change a lot to become the most perfect version of yourself. There’s a huge contrast between who you are now and who you want to be. You want your actions to be effective the first time you try, and you’re easily disappointed when you don’t get results.

5. You suffer from self-doubt and fear because you feel that you lack knowledge, skills and abilities.

You put off plans and actions because you think you’re not capable or competent enough to succeed. See point 4: You think you have to squeeze five years of progress into one week and become a whole new person in the shortest amount of time, or else you don’t deserve what you’re striving for.

6. Regardless of your life situation, you think you’re always lagging behind.

So you underestimate the power of small changes just from feeling hopeless. You think it’s too late and you really have no hope of building your life from scratch. You also reproach yourself for not starting to change your life five years ago (at a time of change) and for dwelling on your mistakes and feelings of disappointment and regret.

7. You accept unrealistic standards and suffer from not being able to achieve them.

You may genuinely want to change your life, but you always feel guilty and not productive enough. You also think you’re a loser, although the only problem is that you don’t know how to look at many things realistically.

8. Your thinking “wanders” somewhere in the future or the past, but not in the present.

You’re experiencing powerful “bouts” of internal resistance because you’re overly worried about the worst possible future outcomes. Similarly, constantly thinking about what you’ve done in the past keeps you from focusing on what you’re doing now. You are constantly suffering from “what people will say” and how they will react to your actions.

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